40 Plus Woman

A 40 Plus Woman Dates

June 26th, 2012  |  Published in Health  |  4 Comments


The Diva of Dating: Walker Thornton

When I uttered those fateful words in 2000, I‘m done, I never imagined myself 12 years later still single and writing about dating. And sex.  I wasn’t thinking about a long-term relationship when I signed up for my first online dating account with AOL Personals. I was lonely, wanting sex and not thinking logically. The initial plan was just to get laid. It had been about 18 months and I craved touch and affection. What I ended up with was the worst sexual experience of my life. It’s laughable now. I was such a poor judge at that point in time.

Over the years I’ve gained valuable experience about meeting, dating and ending relationships. I’ve had 2 long-ish relationships; each seemed headed to ‘til-death-do-us-part. I ended both in the nick of time.

I’m almost 58 years old. My hair is greying and down past my shoulders. I have a few extra pounds, but in general I look great for someone of “my age”. I’m fighting the stereotype of the ‘Older Woman’. Screw that.

I like flirting and I’ve found a deep appreciation for sex. I enjoy men and dating. But I dislike all the talk about what women should do in order to hook a man. Dye my hair, get a makeover and buy the appropriate first date outfit. Really? I don’t think the answer to a successful dating experience lies in hiding our grey hair.Intelligent women, 40 years and older, don’t want to be talked down to. We don’t want to have to deal with ‘make yourself pretty’ routine. We want reasonable suggestions and advice about the dating experience.

So I decided to declare myself the Diva of Dating.  Why not? I certainly speak from experience mixed with a little wisdom and common sense.

My goal as the newly self-appointed Diva?  To help women realize their power as women and celebrate themselves. To help women learn to be savvy about dating—a mix of safety and good choices with the freedom to play and love from an empowered position.  We can embrace being single, divorced or widowed, and still choose to reenter the dating world. We don’t need a man, but we’d like one. And, for some of us,a romantic relationship would be ideal.

The Diva of Dating site is a place for honest conversation about age and dating and the single life. We talk about sex as well as practical tips on writing an online dating profile and having a safe first date. And, everything else related to dating, online or the old fashioned method.

If you’re ready to find a partner and need some help or what to share your stories, come over to The Diva of Dating . Let’s talk !


Bio: The Diva, known as Walker Thornton in real life. Really–I’m a divorced 57 year old woman with quite a bit of dating experience. Just don’t ask me to count the number of men I’ve dated!

I am a freelance writer and in my personal time I’m writing a memoir of my online dating experiences. A grandmother of 2 little girls, mother to 2 sons and a woman who still considers herself youthful, sexy and vibrant. A bit of a feminist with a Southern upbringing who swoons at the sight of a well-mannered gentleman.

You can find The Diva of Dating on Facebook , Twitter, Pinterest and Google+


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  1. Lauren says:

    June 29th, 2012at 11:42 pm(#)

    Granted, I’m not trying to get back into dating at 40–I’m 22 and I’m still finding it plenty difficult–but your insights are really valuable. I lack the experience and common sense you have gathered :) Keep writing!

  2. Walker, aka The Diva of Dating says:

    July 1st, 2012at 2:43 pm(#)

    Thank you. Believe me all that experience and common sense came from much trial and error. I’m glad you found them interesting. Do come and join the conversation at The Diva of Dating. It’s always nice to see thoughts from a range of ages.

  3. Victoria @ My Daily Cuppa says:

    July 27th, 2012at 10:28 pm(#)

    I am so happy to find a site like this dedicated to women over forty and living life. I have just entered the online dating arena and am documenting the challenge.

    Look forward to the discussions here.


  4. Walker aka The Diva of Dating says:

    August 8th, 2012at 6:52 pm(#)

    Forgive me for not seeing your reply sooner! I’m so glad that you found the article and would love to hear how dating is going for you.
    Come on over to The Diva of Dating and join the conversation.

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